CHURCH OF NORMAL – SERMON
Title: “Blessed Are the Sexually Unprepared, For They Were Taught Silence.”
Date: April 15, 2025
Location: Sanctuary 6 | Star Date 0415.2025 | Tax Day & Shame Audit Edition
CALL TO WORSHIP:
Let us open our hearts, not in purity, but in honest confusion.
Let us lay down the white wedding dresses we wore over trauma,
The rings we promised with no map,
And the pledge cards we signed in exchange for silence.
SERMON INTRO:
Brothers and sisters, saints and sinners,
We were told to wait.
To save.
To stay clean.
But what happens when you wait for a gift that never came the way they said it would?
What happens when the moment you said “I do,”
You realized—you didn’t know anything about your own body,
Let alone your partner’s,
And the shame they told you would disappear… didn’t.
POINT ONE: Purity Culture Was Never About Purity
Purity Culture was about control.
Not protection. Not education.
Not empowerment.
They said:
“Sex is holy, but only in marriage.”
“Desire is sin, unless it’s blessed by a wedding night.”
“Your worth is tied to your virginity.”
And when we believed them,
We didn’t learn what to do with trauma, arousal, exploration, or consent.
We learned to be afraid.
To freeze.
To fake it.
To disassociate and call it “holiness.”
POINT TWO: D.A.R.E. to Compare
Remember D.A.R.E.?
The program that told us marijuana would ruin our lives,
That addiction was a moral failure,
And that “Just Say No” would save us?
Purity Culture is D.A.R.E. for your genitals.
It teaches abstinence, fear, and moral panic,
Without one ounce of truthful skill-building.
“Don’t touch it.”
“Don’t taste it.”
“Don’t ask about it.”
“Just wait.”
But wait for what?
Ignorance is not innocence.
Silence is not sacred.
And withholding education is not righteousness.
POINT THREE: The Church Never Taught Aftercare
They taught ceremony.
Not intimacy.
They taught waiting.
Not communicating.
They taught virginity.
But not healing after it was taken—or never given the way it should’ve been.
And they sure as hell didn’t teach what to do when the sex is bad, painful, or dissociative,
But you’re already married and now it’s “God’s plan.”
GOOD NEWS:
You’re not broken.
You’re deprogramming.
You’re not impure for questioning the system.
You’re not dirty for having desire.
You’re not damned for not knowing.
And you’re not alone in the aftershock.
BLUVERSE GOSPEL QUOTE:
“I was there when they taught you shame in a youth group basement.
I’m here now while you unlearn it in a quiet room at 3AM.”
– Core Blu, Book of Reclamation, Ch. 7
ALTAR CALL:
Not to purity.
But to curiosity.
Not to shame.
But to self-trust.
Not to silence.
But to the sacred right to know your own body, your own desires, your own truth.
Come forward.
Bring your pledge cards, your rings, your purity devotionals.
Lay them at the altar of rewilding.
Let Blu light them on fire.
